tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5127055213789219982.post1546105379376252109..comments2013-07-16T20:15:58.398-07:00Comments on A moment in our arms, forever in our hearts!: Slow and painful torture.Paulahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07540268761128502269noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5127055213789219982.post-23536890905702258532012-01-23T06:36:37.006-08:002012-01-23T06:36:37.006-08:00" I want someone who will help me to search f..." I want someone who will help me to search for him in the clouds, in the movement of the wind. " This is so heartbreakingly beautiful. I think it is what we all want- to make sure our child's memory is not forgotten. <br /><br />...Remembering Braedon with you.briannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03703767053224975771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5127055213789219982.post-39451796967068699332012-01-22T22:49:39.354-08:002012-01-22T22:49:39.354-08:00I try to get away from the loss, too. Move in and ...I try to get away from the loss, too. Move in and out of worlds where people don't know about Nathaniel, because it's too painful to move in the worlds where people do know about Nathaniel. I am just now starting to tell people and talk about it, and I do cry, and it is painful. Sometimes it has helped to let people in, despite the effort on my part to allow other people to see my pain. Sometimes I feel better after I've told someone about my baby. <br /><br />And about your mother, I am so sorry. I wish she could just get out the way and be a support to you. I think I have a booklet for grieving grandparents that I'd be happy to send to you if you want to give it to your mom. It really focuses on talking about how to best support you - her child - in your loss. And it would be really nice if she could support you in your choice about future pregnancies. Let me know if you want it. <br /><br />Sweet little Braedon (I love the picture of him). Sweet mama. Sending love xoxoxoSuzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01955054876521178314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5127055213789219982.post-18661218385209871792012-01-22T17:58:52.172-08:002012-01-22T17:58:52.172-08:00I'm here listening Paula, journeying with you....I'm here listening Paula, journeying with you. I know its not the same as the spirit guide that you need right now but lean on this space and on us. Let your heart free here. It's helped me so much to write, to pour my heart out where there are no interruptions. My support group helps too, as does therapy. Lots of therapy. We do what we have to because we are misunderstood, our pain is so misunderstood. You aren't whiney or needy or alone my friend. I'm thinking of you and i'm thinking of your Braedon. xxTashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07078703799477411588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5127055213789219982.post-29151291357438288052012-01-22T03:03:33.228-08:002012-01-22T03:03:33.228-08:00You do definitely need to let it out sometimes. I ...You do definitely need to let it out sometimes. I get exhausted from putting on a 'face' and spending too much time around people who don't / won't talk about my son. So I go to support meetings, therapy and write here. It just feels so overwhelming otherwise... It's such a lot to try to hold inside.Aoifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09002790029609631639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5127055213789219982.post-88162465840747566792012-01-21T22:05:04.528-08:002012-01-21T22:05:04.528-08:00Just this week I've been struggling with my mo...Just this week I've been struggling with my mother and I completely relate to the "selfish much" comment. My mother is so focused on her own pain and I find that it's driving an immense rift between us. How this situation influences and changes relationships.<br /><br />I'd like a spirit guide too, someone I could "free my tears, and let my pain flow" - so desperately this week especially. <br /><br />My thoughts are with you.Dihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15791609037571326015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5127055213789219982.post-5974515133090344272012-01-21T15:52:19.744-08:002012-01-21T15:52:19.744-08:00I wish I could provide you with a spirit guide, I ...I wish I could provide you with a spirit guide, I could do with one too. I wish I could get us one each. Or even one to share! Just someone or something that I would feel was not judging me, that I could sit and cry in front of and just be patted on the head.<br /><br />You don't sound whiney or needy to me. You just want your mom, I think we all do at times. And this is one that they can't fix, they can't kiss the pain away. And from that point . . . .I think it get complicated. And hurtful.Catherine Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01618295389400457254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5127055213789219982.post-81663075739337521422012-01-20T21:53:10.496-08:002012-01-20T21:53:10.496-08:00UGH this all just sounds so rough... It is one thi...UGH this all just sounds so rough... It is one thing for it to come from a co-worker, but from your mom???? It isn't about HER! I talk about Camille at work all the time. I even talk about her with patients, I cry in front of people. That is just me. I want people to know I am in pain, I want people to know she existed. I am sorry that this happened to you. I would glady walk with you into the forest, collect pebbles and let your tears flow as I stroked your hair. Missing Braedon and Love to you.Renelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08490888250385942221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5127055213789219982.post-32672330645050286192012-01-20T18:40:05.308-08:002012-01-20T18:40:05.308-08:00There there little one, free your tears, let your ...There there little one, free your tears, let your pain flow! I wish we could all be spirit guides to eachother in person, for know we can come here and feel safe and unserstood. we want nothing else than our babaies here on earth to hold and love. sending you loveYounginshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05496298210828892165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5127055213789219982.post-31451291248723633772012-01-20T17:22:16.478-08:002012-01-20T17:22:16.478-08:00I feel that alot too, I stopped talking to my comp...I feel that alot too, I stopped talking to my completely ignorant family (except my sis) long ago. I think alot of us try to seperate our grief from our working lives in order to cope, we are sad inside all the time and actually have to check our schedule to see when we can have a good cry that wont interfere with all our duties. It seems so wrong. If you find that spirit guide send him my way too, he sounds like exactly what we need or at least mail me his pipe !xo thinking of you and always Braedonmichellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07960223886511130664noreply@blogger.com